A few days ago, I tried to escape my mother out of the “Group Home” she’s been forced to live in for a month now, against her will. I tried to do what she’s been begging me to do since she went there on December 22. She had NO choice in the matter, and was surprised by it. There was no warning that I know of. I didn’t know, and neither did my dad. She cried in my arms for being stuck there on Christmas Day…
Every time I’ve been to visit her (many times) over the past month, she asks me to take her out of there. She wants to be with me and her husband, my dad, who is under my care in my house. I have plenty of witnesses who tell me my dad is in great shape, he’s healthy, doing fine, and I’m doing a great job. And these witnesses are also “medical people,” by the way.
My Power-Mongering brother (both of ‘em, actually) continues to try and simply shove me out of the family, or at least out of any possibility of being the Caregiver for my parents, as they and I had planned for years.
Sibling Bro with the POA’s (I actually gave him the Financial POA’s to get him off my neck, years ago. Biggest fucking mistake EVER!!!) has decided that I cannot be our folks’ caregiver because I want to take Mom arf all her medications, and then take over my folks’ money (the sibling bros’ inheritance) and use it up on myself.
I can’t be their caregiver, per King bro, and Prince bro, too, even tho both Mom and Dad WANT me to be, because of “all the medical people” who say they need MEDICAL care. But I yam the one who is trying to have “total control.”
The only “medical” care they need is my mom taking her meds. They’re both in great shape, really, for two very venerable people with memory issues and some confusion, but who, when they understand a situation, respond rationally. And of course there’s NO PROBLEM continuing to give my mother STATINS, the main objection I have with “medical,” other than vaxxing them for every single possibility of dreaded disease of any kind, including the “boosters”…
My folks don’t have a ton of dough. Their savings will be stripped off within 5 months for just my mom living in a place she doesn’t want to be. And what then? Then their home, which they paid off long ago and WANT TO LIVE IN, and never really have had a chance to say “goodbye” to, with me as their main caregiver —and they can afford to have some help for me…
But NO. We must all do as King Bro says, regardless of what my parents want. They are now without any rights, of Informed Consent, of Freedom, of the Pursuit of Happiness, and maybe of Life itself.
Just exactly WHO is after Total Control here?
I walked her out the front door of the facility. Two staff members ran out and grabbed her. I had hold of her, too, and I told them to let her go, that they were assaulting her, and she kept saying, “I want to go with my daughter, I want to go with my daughter!” They refused, and one of them said to her, “You don’t want to go with her!” She’s MY MOTHER.
The Sheriff’s Deputies arrived and my mom told them she wanted to go with me. These are people who take an oath to uphold the Constitution. Are they aware of the limitations of a POA? I donut know. One of them was nice to me, a woman; one young man was snotty and rude, and I told him don’t you talk to me like that, you don’t know me. He shut up. I did not make a statement, nor sign their whatever.
Meanwhile, my brother seems quite busy monitoring the one credit card my mom gave me long ago, for emergencies, on the bank account he has no part of … He is a signatory on the other one, which will soon be out of cash to spend on unwanted facility prison, and will have to do something else. This will surely be where the rubber meets the road.
My dad (who is pretty pissed arf) and I are trying to get our ducks in a row. I do know of an attorney, a former Marine, who told me last week he was too busy to take my case. I’m going to try and talk him into it on Monday…
I’m not getting enough sleep. I can’t even visit my mother now, I’m a CRIMINAL, for trying to help (free) her. Why can my King Bro forbit me to even take her out to lunch? Yes, and he poisoned the staff of this facility (who tell my mother what she really wants) against me— It’s pretty obvious in the way they have treated me) against me. That’s nothing, NOTHING, compared to how my brothers have treated me, and this shit goes back DECADES… Because? I’m at a loss there, but it seems like simple jealousy, and misogyny. From what she’s said in the past, my mom seems to agree…
I’m not interested in being a meek, submissive little girl who is governed by this country’s (USA) bullshit court system (or by two nasty siblings)… Justice, my ass. My allegiance is to my parents, and to the CONSTITUTION and to the ideas laid out therein. Constitutional Rights, UNALIENABLE, to Life, Liberty, and the Pursuit of Happiness. Show me where it says that can be overturned by snivelling boy-men who want to practice misogyny and disregard their parents because they’ve decided their parents no longer know enough to know what they WANT. There’s a word for what’s going on: ELDER ABUSE. Well, it’s not like this is the FIRST instance of that in my family…
This makes my blood boil, Jaan. Good for you for giving it a go. 🩷
If your mother is not deemed/certified incompetent, doctors signature post assessment for competency on paper and in her chart with all corresponding nursing interventions in place, this facility is holding her against her will
Lawyer. Lawsuit.