Once in a while, I have a real love/hate relationship with the fellas. Mostly I feel very happy to have them around, but sometimes I’m just fed up and pissed off. Like now. I blame Patriarchy for most of it, which is created and used by MEN, okay, guys, it’s not something else you can blame on women. Yeah, I’m pissed off, and so I’m going to vent. This is not about ALL MEN, I don’t do that. I know better. How do I know better? Because I’m a grownup… I’m even OLD now, lol. And I just don’t do that… We’re all our own unique selves.
When I first started on Substack, I wrote a post about Good Men… I forgot what I titled it, and I can’t be bothered to go look it up, but you can, if you want. Well, I meant it, every word of it. I have a really big warm hearty feeling about men, in general. But sometimes… And maybe I shouldn’t let it bother me, but sometimes it does. So what. I’m bothered sometimes, it’s okay to be bothered.
I’m trying to decide if I want to continue to read one of the SS pages I subscribe to, that, up until today, I considered to be one of my favorites. Because the man who writes it didn’t stand up for women, he joined in the fray. As I pointed out on the thread of a recent post of his that explores how a young woman who is clearly a paid shill for the Evil that has attacked the entire world, that she IS a paid shill, but she is NOT an example of ALL WOMEN. It’s easy to look at what she’s doing, and a little bit of info about her, and decide to dislike her… easy peasy.
It’s that same double standard thing, tho… When a MAN is clearly being a shill for the Wrong Side, people don’t sit around talking about how men, plural (which includes all of them), are this or that, and lumping them into some giant mental disease or inclusive character flaw/mental defect.
However, as I had to point out, MEN (psychotic MEN) are responsible for this fake virus attack on the entire world and everyone and everything in it, and yet, the boys in the thread decide, with this idiotic little shill as an excuse, to focus on how WOMEN, as in, the entire CATEGORY of women, are to blame for everything, and how they really should, and these are my words, stay in their place. It was creepy, watching how they all jumped on this excuse and started dissing WOMEN, generally. And then all the typical “male” generalizations about women, how they’re obviously all the same, and have mental problems, etc etc etc. Wheeeeeee! It was FUN, for the boys.
The same old song, sung for thousands of years, off-key as a given, titled “Talkin’ Shit About Women,” whether it’s bodily or economically or psychologically or whatever. It seems to be The Thing To Do, like talking about fishing or something, anytime there’s an excuse, like this clearly paid-off shill who isn’t a doctor, pretending to be a doctor— Yes, despicable and pathetic, but HARDLY an example of women generally— but like a feeding frenzy, the boys all jump on the topic and tell us what they really think… And it’s not very cool, no, not cool at all. I don’t recall ever seeing women do that on a Substack, or hardly anywhere, and when they do, it feels just as unfair to me as this did.
And if you’re thinking, oh, god, another whiney cow going on about how stupid men are… Well?
One of the most obvious means of Divide and Conquer is clearly and easily seen in the apparently never-ending struggle between men and women. In my life, and I can’t really speak for other women, so I generally don’t, I’ve been loved by a few good men and betrayed and abused by a hell of a lot of tall, cowering but physically threatening boys who seem to have mental problems of their own, and want to take out their fear and loathing on me, most often when they don’t even know me. I don’t stick around for abuse, but I have to go around in the world, and so I get some abuse simply for being in the world, and I think ALL this bullshit is encouraged and enabled by TPTB.
I don’t LIKE being treated as a THING, “one of those,” like I am a cookie-cutter something, like I am exactly like this, and you can know me before you know me, and it all comes down to a simple phrase or just one lousy word.
But here we are, amidst the worst and most lethal betrayal of Humanity in general, men seem to need to turn to women and take out their unhappiness by blaming WOMEN. Oh, that’s new! What is it about men that they blame WOMEN for their pedophilia, for rape, for beating on people who are smaller than themselves, for pushing women out of jobs, out of politics, out of economic equity, out all sorts of things? Men write books and speak to audiences as if women don’t exist. Men act like women are somehow not supposed to interact in areas of intellect, as if women don’t have intellects, and when they do show intellect, many men are threatened and behave, often, in petty ways to demean and deride… And when men have wars, they rape all the women, even little girls, to somehow “punish” their male enemies… W the exact F. If ever there were a mental defect, I’d say that qualifies.
The following is something I wrote down once, after waking up in the middle of the night and it’s applicable rat now:
"When women write about women the way men write about men, women are called "feminist," and men are called "authors."
But this double standard is NOTHING NEW. And of course, not all men behave this way, and some of my best friends are men. But it happens waaaaay too often and in ways that are so ugly and hurtful that it takes me by surprise, and it also really pisses me off. You can see that I’m pissed off because my inner dog is curled up by the fire, very quiet, and waiting for when it’s time to play again… And for all the girl dogs out there that have endured the word “bitch” being used in a negative way, and to all the boy dogs out there that have tried to say girl dogs are something generally lesser-than, I say, “Woofings, girl dogs!”
Yes, I believe in Love and Love is the Answer, and Love is the Way Forward, and so on, and then all these boy dogs will start humping the couch, because that’s the only LOVE they seem to understand, and I knoooooow it’s biology pounding in the veins, I knooooooow! and yet they feel justified in bashing me and generally behaving like third graders… I think it IS the case that they’re jealous, threatened, mystified, etc etc. I could make a very broad and demeaning comment about men right here, but I will refrain from that, because it’s de mean.
Because it’s not like I’m UNDER WARE that some women are easy to make fun of, or to dismiss or dislike, DUH. I don’t defend the LOSERS, the SHILLS, and the HORROR STORIES. But like anyone who’s ever experienced racism, or discrimination because of their religion, or their economic status— It’s a matter of being de-individualized, of being made a THING, a number, a page in a boring book… And it makes me angry, because it feels like being slapped, really hard, for something I didn’t do. Just like being told you’re not okay because of your age/skin color/religion/eye color/place of birth/great-grandfather’s profession/cousin’s choice of car/dad’s tie, etc.
So… for all you men who are NOT jerks, thanks for being you, and I really mean it. If not for summa you fellas (and Dad!), I’d be DONE. And maybe DEAD. So, mmmmmwah!
Now, could you talk to your brethren and tell ‘em to grow up? I know, but it’s TIME. It’s TIME, for tall boys to go ahead and grow up and be MEN, grown men, not junior-high-school boy-men, whatever your actual age. (I’d say this to some women, too, but they’ll never grow up and be men!)
Then I will be able to just be a bitch instead of bitching. And if you don’t like me no mo, I understand the feeling, but whatever, brothers. I might miss you… I might not. “But women are supposed to be nurturing!!” And most of us ARE. And bitches can Bitch Slap— in self defense and for ALL bitches!
Okay, love ya! xo Buh bye, if that applies! Bitching. I’m good at it, wooden you say? I feel better noooooowwww. Because we ain’t gonna have your back if you keep stabbin’ us in ours. We will just get MORE DOGS.
I didn't want this to be about GOSSIP.
I wanted it to be about FAIRNESS and DECENCY. I should have been more explicit.
Yes! Bring it! I agree and can relate, it's often so frustrating because so many men and women refuse to validate the female experience, it can be torture sometimes, and yes, we unfortunately still live in a mans world, which is precisely part of why we have all these problems in the world. It's an imbalance of power.